When I was obese, I was drained, miserable, emotionally unfulfilled and overburdened.
I was married to a man who felt more like a third child, than a partner.
Over time he became emotionally abusive and on a few occasions physically as well.
I was trying to hold things together for the kids and although I was dissatisfied in the relationship, I still loved him.
I listened to the lies of his words, instead of 'hearing' the truth of his actions.
Empty were his platitudes and...
There is a reason 97% of dieters fail.
The reason is obvious.
They fail to stick to the diet.
Hold on, hold on.
It's not because they are lazy and undisciplined, it's because weight loss diets are designed to be done for a temporary time period.
They are not by design for permanent results.
Think about it:
- If you don't already go to the gym and love it, how long do you think you can force yourself to do it?
- How long can you really live on 1000 calories or less a day, before you freak out...
There is a mental paradigm that keeps people on the diet rollercoaster, despite not getting permanent results.
If you have been dieting for years, or worse for decades - the problem is in your mind.
I am not saying that the extra fat on your body is in your mind.
What I am saying is that you have a certain mindset that stops you from clearly seeing the truth.
You've been buying into half truths, outright lies and quick fixes.
You haven't been willing to face the truth about what it takes to...
This is part of my story of how I discovered that dieting doesn't work and what actually does.
The attached photo is a reverse before and after photo.
It's more like an after, and after that photo.
I starved myself to fit into my grad dress.
This first photo of me is after having starved myself down for grad.
The second photo is at some kind of community event soon after having gained back about 15lbs.
I still remember feeling especially not good about myself that day - ashamed to be seen...
I was chatting with a lady yesterday about young girls and body image and how she had heard that my daughters dance school was well known for being a place with zero tolerance of body shaming or pressuring dancers to be a certain size.
As the mother of a thirteen year old, I was really glad to hear that my daughter's dance school had this reputation. And yet that hasn't stopped her from feeling the internal and peer pressure of wanting to be thinner.
It made me think back to a few years ago...